Emotions and social skills are two crucial items in
a child’s development. Your child should not be glued to the television nor should
you have them hanging on your leg. There is an area which is right in between
those two. Children need to be socialized and well behaved in order to
eventually grow up and manage a teenage lifestyle. If they are not properly socialized
it could lead to ridicule, judgment, and loss of friends. The socialization
starts growing from the beginning of your life when your parents raise you. The
more a child feels “in place” where they are will lead to good things. No child
ever wants to be left out. Parents need to teach their children that their
behavior affects them as a person and other people around them. You want your
child to be a valuable and wanted member of his/her:
- Family
- Team
- School
- Community
If the child has a problem with these four aspects, the child
could result in socialization problems now and in the future. Children should
be allowed to express themselves but in a way that is appropriate and not rude
or conceited. Parents need to guide their children in ways of behaving and
social approaches. My neighbor, a young little girl, rudely interrupted her
mother while she was speaking. The little girl needs to know the manners to
have when someone else is speaking. Does this mean that the girl could be
showing these flaws at school too? Interrupting a teacher or being
disrespectful? If parents display respect in their home then they are teaching
their children to act like that as well. Children look at parents as their
mentors and if their parents tend to do something over and over, the child
thinks it is ok. For example, if a child gets away with the same misbehavior
because his/her mother feels too bad then the child is never going to learn.
Later in life, you cannot act like that towards your friends or classmates or
you will have problems keeping them.
This video can help you with more information for actions you can
take for growing and socializing with others!! I hope you like it!
Hey Allie!
ReplyDeleteI was recently a part of a scenario somewhat similar to yours with the little girl. I babysit 2 boys after school, one is 6, and the other is 10. They both act completely different. The 6 year old does not have as great as manners as his older brother. The younger one doesn't say thank you to anyone, and always lashes out when he doesn't get his way. He doesn't listen well either, and he always answers his mom back. While the older one is always respectful and listens to his mom. The thing is, the younger one's friends all act the same way too, so I'm thinking he is influenced by how his friends act because I know the mom did not raise him like that. Really interesting and loved the video!
-Gabby
Hey! Thanks Gabby! I definitely think that kids respond to their parents depending on the way the parents treat them. If the kids get away with it all the time, they will never learn. Teaching discipline is really something parents should try to address beginning at a young age..you know? I'm sure that the younger boy you babysit is definitely just influenced by his friends because he is trying to act cool (of course). There should really be a certain boundary so he learns what is right and wrong, and what is joking around so he doesn't continue to do it later on in life.
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